Is It cheating???

[Silver Adept]

Hrm. (Is it bad when you go back to look at the question again just to make sure you get the wording right on it?)

My answer to the question is: It depends.

If you consider that "fooling around" implies that there hasn't been consent given and/or talks done about it, then yes, it's a cheat, because it's done behind the dating person's back.

However, depending on the nature of the relationship between the two dating people, if it's okay between them for each of them to go out and snog someone else if they think s/he's hot and that there's communication between them about it (even if it's more in asking for forgiveness than permission), then I'd be inclined to say no, it's not cheating, regardless of whether it's with someone of the same sex or of the opposite sex.

So far, it sounds like the camps are divided into the "It's always cheating!" and the "It might not be, depending on the circumstances" schools of thought. My experience is that the majority of people and their relationships are in the first, rather than the second. This could be changing, however.

[Terin]

LOL. Watch Chasing Amy, then get back to me ^_^

Love and desire, while they work well together, often are bitter rivals when apart.
-T

[Reverend]

[kei]

Considering the fact that I use to date a lesbian while I was in highschool, I really would have to say "Can be" to it. I didn't find out the girl I was dating in highschool was lesbian, until I saw her making out with another girl, ofcourse she was in theater so I thought the were reherseing or something, But if really depends on how you look at it, if you think it's cheating then it's going to be cheating to you. But if you don't see it hat way than its not.

In in common world since if you are dating this person, and they don't tell you about it, then yes in the world that is considered cheating, as boyfriend and girlfriend, to me the couples should be completely honest with eachother, and let that person know what's going on.

[Exottica]

I'm not going to answer the poll since I'm too analytical to pick any of those answers, but I think it's entirely dependent on the type of relationship you have. If the encounter happens behind the back of one of the original partners, then yes, I'd consider that cheating. Anything with the air of secrecy or that you wouldn't wish to share with your partner is most likely in the realm of "cheating." However, I know some people have arrangements worked out and they respect their partner's bisexuality--but the usual stipulation is that it can't be done in secret. I'm bi and my boyfriend supports my sexuality, provided that I don't do anything behind his back and I haven't. So, I guess that's my take on it!

[kei]