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shadokastur
Patience to see and strength to do. That is all.
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Joined: 26 Jan 2003 |
 Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 3:00 pm Post subject: |
| Doot wrote: | It is definitely pre-empty nest syndrome. My dad and I had the WORST fallouts, my goodness, when I was your age and very much in the same situation.
Talking with her is ultimately going to be the route you are going to have to take. Ask her what she needs and how you two can come to agreements on things. If she wants you to take more responsibility with taking your sister places and picking up groceries, let her know you are delighted to do so. Explain your case calmly and precisely - a lot of thought goes into these conversations. Show her the responsible person we all know and see. Family always has a way of irking the crap out of us.
Ultimately, see what SHE needs from you. If you approach it in a calm manner, hopefully she will maintain the tone. Make sure to address it in an already relaxed situation. Let her know you aren't fleeing from home and that you appreciate her concerns and restrictions but also feel you are ready to have some more responsibility AND freedom in your time.
Successful communication is understanding how the person you are talking to NEEDS to be talked to.
I hope this helps hon. Let me know how it goes. |
Doot is gut! Talking is the only way to solve it.
But be aware that frequently the thing that is causing the turmoil in your mom's life could be something else entirely and the stress is getting to her and she's taking out her frustration on you. It's called displacement and it is a common spur to conflict. Just be aware and help your mom when you can and it should dissipate her hostilities and - with a little added display of being able to handle the responsibility - she may even budge on your curfew. People are reasonable and logical but first reactions can frequently be over judgemental and harsh. Keep a cool and observant head on your shoulders and you can overcome ANYTHING! |
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Suna-chan
Otaku Master
Age: 36
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Joined: 22 May 2003 |
| Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 8:54 pm Post subject: |
Well, thanks guys for all your suggestions. Yeah, talking to my mom is really the only solution.... So that'll be what I attempt to do next.
Anyway, I kind of talked to her today, but she sort of "yeahokwhatever"'d it. Guess I'll keep trying!! :p thanks again. |
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Blackmage
Intragalactic Acquisitions Agent Mew
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 |
| Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 9:38 pm Post subject: |
Good that you talked to her or at least tired. Just don't give up. |
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Sakura
Saku-chan
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Joined: 22 Sep 2002 |
| Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 11:34 am Post subject: |
-drives your car into a tree- There.. Everything's better.  Just kidding Suna~ ;_; Yeeeaa.. Your mom is like <_< whoa.. |
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Therin
Gloompf. Iggle!
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| Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 12:36 pm Post subject: |
If I was in your shoes, this would be "I am more stubborn than anyone you have ever met before in your life ever, and no matter how hard you try, you will come around to my point of view, even if it takes ten solid years" time. Which is about where I'm at with my folks anyway.
But I realize not everyone is quite as much of a prick as I am ^^; And not everyone's parents are quite so horrifying. I tell you what. Keep trying, and don't give up, and eventually it'll work out and all will be better again.
But don't get rid of your car <_<
That would be...slightly inconvenient. And trying to get another one would be hell.
Hope that helps ^^;
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Except watermelon. Nobody overcomes watermelon. NOBODY!!! |
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