loneliness,mistrust,uneasiness and truth all in one thread!

Shino · Posted: Mon Aug 16, 2004 6:52 am Post subject:

His girlfriend?

You mean his ex? Or someone you suspect him to be attracted to?

Well I'm sorry to say this, but you seem to now be at a point of mistrust. You are looking at his things to find out information. For good reason however. He is not being honest with you...

So two of your 3 rules are breaking down. You need to talk to him and clear it up, or, let go and move on. I'm sorry to say this, b/c a year is a long time. But you can't live your life wondering if he is out with some other chick.

Is having a boyfriend really worth the heart ache you have been feeling the past weekend?

I'm not saying to give up, but you need to talk with him. Either get this worked out or move on.

Terin · Huzzah! Gender: Joined: 27 Oct 2003

yeah the longer you wait the harder it will be in the end. This isn't something that's going to go away.
-T

Sperrit · Chosen of Earth Gender: Joined: 16 Oct 2002

Unfortunately (or fortunately) I think Shino's got the best bead on things here. You NEED Honesty, Trust and Communication and it appears that all those things are starting to get a little shaky. It may be that he has a good explaination for the circumstances of that night, but you need to talk to him about what happened and why, if he does have a good reason for why he was out so late and delaying you and trying to (seemingly) keep you in the dark, he didn't communicate with you about it.
I hope that everything turns out well.

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ChibiChaos · Schoolchick Gender: Joined: 26 Sep 2002

oh god.. my bf showed up really early this morning..to come clean..

seems last night he went out to the crazy bitch's house. he went to go get something and "fell asleep" woke up, and came home to go to bed. his mom came in and yelled at him for hours. she went by and saw his car there. the only reason he came clean is because he was caught and didn't want his mother calling me and telling me.

he appologized for almost an hour. cried his eyes out. he said he didn't want to lose me but they had some money for him because their grandmother died and left him in her will. he went there to get the money and fell asleep. (after calling me and telling me he was tired and would see me in the morning) he swore now that he has the money he is going to cut off all connections with them. he said he didn't want to lose be because "i'm the best thing in his life" but he would "understand if i broke up with him, because he is such an idiot for doing that"
even better, he ran outta the house after he woke up so fast he forgot the money, so he's asking them to drop it off sometime. sure.

his mom was accusing him of fooling around with the old lady again and stuff. he said he didn't think i would believe him either. well, this is what i did.

i told him that i would give him one more chance. if i ever find out he is talking/meeting them again, he's history. he agreed. he is getting a new cell phone and i am changing his email for him. i am going to check it regularly. no ifs ands or buts. he does this, or i am gone. but i am so conflicted. i'm not sure how to handle this.

Shino · Posted: Fri Aug 20, 2004 8:02 pm Post subject:

Chibs, you already know what I think.

I want you to know that whatever you do, feel free to call on me to talk for any reason.