MY christmas present..

[ChibiChaos]

So yeah, here's another chapter of my so-called life.

So, on the 23rd (yesterday) my boyfriend and I are just kinda hanging out at his house (aka his parents house, we can't move out yet because of lack of money) and he walks in the direction of the bathroom, which is past the tv. His brother comes down (he is 14) and goes "HEY FATASS, WE'RE USING THE TV SO MOVE!" Not being one to be randomly and pointlessly attacked without some kind of retaliation, he turns and faces his younger brother and says "WHAT DID YOU SAY?" and the kid kicks him in the nuts. For no reason at all. Needless to say, the nutshot infuriated him and he proceeded to headlock him and punch him in the back of the head a few times. The kid freaks out, partly cause he got his ass kicked and the other part being his friends watched it all happen. He screams out and announces he's going to get a knife and stab him. He goes upstairs and we hear him grab a knife, and his mom comes in the front door and stops him. She then proceeds to listen to the brother's story about how my bf started it and he did nothing to him. She comes downstairs and screams at my bf, of course leaving out the part where he was getting a knife, in case we didn't hear her scream "PUT THAT FUCKING KNIFE DOWN!" And she announces she's kicking my bf out of the house because he fights "for no reason''. Even better, I believe his dad supported my bf on this one since the kid makes fun of him for no reason, steals his shit, treats the shit he steals like shit/gives it to his friends to keep, so she's kicking him out too. She was also urging her younger son to call the cops and charge him with assault, and also trying to get the cops after my bf because the car he drives is under HER insurance, even though he bought it himself. This is a bunch of bullshit. My bf takes all her assaults (calling him names, telling him he's useless and all that good stuff) even though when he was born they told her that he would be a vegetable and wouldn't even be able to feed himself, she's never even said good job or congratulations, instead she forgets he could have been retarded from birth and calls him names and puts him down constantly, and lets her younger son do so without saying/doing anything. She doesn't discipline him at all, lets him say/do whatever he wants. He makes fun of his brother (my bf) every day, at least a few times a day. Finally he couldn't take his shit anymore and then the kid makes the bad decision to start a fight with his bigger stronger brother after putting him down for years and thinking he'd just take it. So yeah, my christmas present is my bf might have to move in with me for a while, sell his car because he wouldn't be able to get insurance, then find him a way to school/work. This is complete bullshit and this year I hate christmas. Nuff said.

[Ultrawolf]

It -is- BS.
The worst part is when grown Adults take sides without even attempting to figure out who was right or wrong. Like precious little Johnny is an angel right? I'm not sure whether it's worse that the kid is manipulating his mom like that or that she falls for it. Get -Real- People. Sooner or later he'll do something horrible he won't be able to manipulate his way out of and when that happens his Mom will hopefully have a shock of reality or she'll keep blindly defending him.

On the positive side though, You'll be able to see your boyfriend more and he won't have to deal with the crap at home.

[Kudasai Hiroki]

I know what you're going through. Once when my girlfriend and I lost our apartment, my mom set us up in this house she was trying to sell. I told her I'd make payments on it and pay the utilities untill she either sold the house or I got a place of my own. I swear it was like living at home! The wretched woman was over there all the time. Constantly nagging about the state of things. Well, I'm sorry if I went to school and worked and supported my girlfriend and our baby. So I was a little late with the first payment. What did she do? She kicked us out. No warning! Called me up and said we had till midnight to get out. Somehow I managed to get everything out in less than three hours. (see, miracles do happen) And my dad, who's house is already overrun with his wife and her children, let me haul all of my junk over there.
What kind of mother kicks her child and grandchild out on the street?

It sucks now I know. But, if that whole crappy experience taught me anything it was this...
A. Never get into any kind of deal with parents where money is involved.
B. To be more self reliant.
C. Just because they're family doesn't mean you have to like them.

I wish I could tell you that it's all down hill from there. But I'm afraid it tends to get worse before it gets better. But it will get better. That much I can assure you. I'm happy to say that my girlfriend and I both graduated and we are now married. We learned from that experience and have since gotten ourselves back on our feet. Sure my mom said I'd never amount to much and our relationship would never last. But, I must admit, proving her wrong and thereby pissing her off has been half the fun!

Good luck to both of you!

[Rizzen]

Just wonderful....I, the usually talkative one, have very little to say on this matter....I do hope it works out in the end with as little pain as possible.

-Rizzen

[RivaOni]

My step mum had the "wake up call" ultrawolf mentioned recently.
for years he stole off everyone of the family, but because my family are from a poor area and hers not she pointed the finger at me, big arguments ensued i eventually moved out and lived with my mum for a couple of years till i met chixie and moved away.

then it all started happening with my little sister too until she moved into my mums house, but it carried on, and now she has no one to blame but her son, she wouldnt possibly blame her daughter, mainly coz she was always at choir practice or some school club. so now shes felt forced to get him some sort of counselling, i dont know the ins and outs of it all, as far as im concerned her family has broken the links between my dad and his family, we all rarely see him because shes always there when we do.

its not only that though, within 2 months of us moving in with her out cat was put down, there was nothing rong with him really, yeah he was old but he had a good couple of years in him, but him and her cat didnt get along so she got her way, which was really unfair on us

but my dads slowly starting to see what shes like, you can tell when shes starts yakking as he starts rolling his eyes, especially when she goes on about how great her toffee nosed kids are. youd think butter wouldnt melt when shes on about them

[Tobias]

Im in one of those moods...so you're going to hear some rather "un tobs-like stuff..." why? It happens from time to time...sorry for any unorthodox ideas...dont regard them all.

You're family does have a problem...a big one. The fact that any parent could do something to a child like that is unheard of. My suggestion is that your boyfriend go back to the house, and tell the mother that she will never see him again. Never hear from him again. In fact, won't even know he existed. But make sure he says before he goes "Just to let you know, though, I love you, and I tried hard." Then walk away, don't look back, and drive off. Continue your life, minus her, and the brother. They are no longer a bother in life anymore...they were the past.

That is all.

Once again...sorry if this seems rather cold...it's the side of me that is probably most true to who I am

[Cheshire]

Tobias is being a little harsh (no offense). Yes contact should be cut, but if she ever tries to fix things forgivness should always be an option. I recently cut ties with a friend of mine and I miss him a lot. I really hope everything works out ok. Best wishes for the both of you.

[Tobias]

hehe...i told ya, it was one of those "Real-Tobs" moments...if I am ever anything like my character here, that would be it. The "Real-Mike" version of me is much like chesire...contact severed, but openness to rebuilding the relationship.

Anywho, sorry once again for throwing everyone off in my cold-bantor!