| Author |
Message |
PO Info |
 |
Terin
Huzzah!
Gender: 
Joined: 27 Oct 2003 |
 Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 8:52 pm Post subject: A kind of woman... |
I've recently discovered that annoy me. These are women that I befriend, with no intention or desire to take the relationship further. They confide in me, I give them advice, we bond plutonically. Suddenly she gets a BF and is nowhere to be found. Basically this kind of woman doesn't need a social circle if she has a bf, she only needs him. I'm the "tide-me-over" friend.
That's fucked up. Unfortunately there isn't anyway to tell these women from other women until it's too late. To ladies out there like this, thanks for thinking about the friends you abandon. ( I don't know if there are guys out there that do this too, but over the past 6 months I've experienced this twice and it pisses me off.)
-T |
|
|
|
 |
 |
Wins 41 - Losses 57
Level 10 |
EXP: 4282
HP: 2330
 |
STR: 850
END: 740
ACC: 1000
AGI: 710
|
Magnificent Mace of 1000 Misses (Mace)
(370 - 400) |
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Tobias
*explodes*
Age: 38
Gender:
Joined: 17 Jan 2003 |
| Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 11:45 am Post subject: Re: A kind of woman... |
| Terin wrote: | I've recently discovered that annoy me. These are women that I befriend, with no intention or desire to take the relationship further. They confide in me, I give them advice, we bond plutonically. Suddenly she gets a BF and is nowhere to be found. Basically this kind of woman doesn't need a social circle if she has a bf, she only needs him. I'm the "tide-me-over" friend.
That's fucked up. Unfortunately there isn't anyway to tell these women from other women until it's too late. To ladies out there like this, thanks for thinking about the friends you abandon. ( I don't know if there are guys out there that do this too, but over the past 6 months I've experienced this twice and it pisses me off.)
-T |
dude, you give this too much though. Forgive and forget. It isn't worth the time. |
_________________
I am not afraid to die today
Nor afraid of what Death will bring.
 |
|
|
|
 |
Wins 112 - Losses 110
Level 16 |
EXP: 535
HP: 3000
|
STR: 1000
END: 1000
ACC: 1000
AGI: 1000
|
Eden (Sword)
(475 - 475) |
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Terin
Huzzah!
Gender:
Joined: 27 Oct 2003 |
| Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 2:03 pm Post subject: |
It's not really. I can't hold grudges for anything, lol. Especially after I sleep. I mean it's still fucked up, but I feel better today and it doesn't bug me as much. Thanks for the advice! *goes to start another pic comment string on Tob's facebook*
-T |
|
|
|
|
|
Wins 41 - Losses 57
Level 10 |
EXP: 4282
HP: 2330
|
STR: 850
END: 740
ACC: 1000
AGI: 710
|
Magnificent Mace of 1000 Misses (Mace)
(370 - 400) |
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Sciler
Mistress
Age: 45
Gender: 
Joined: 15 Sep 2002 |
| Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 5:49 pm Post subject: |
Yes, there are men who do it as well.
As much as it sucks to "lose" a friend, its sadly a part of life and growing up. I doubt that any of us can say that we keep in touch with our best friends or social circles as much as we did 10 or 15 years ago, and are as truely close now in as many ways, as we were back then.
Things just...change. It's how we adapt to that change, that either allows friendships to remain strong, or they faulter under the lack of socializing that previously was there every day.
Some of mine remain strong, though the distance is great, and quite a few have fallen further and further off the radar as people get thier own lives and families forming. It sucks, I miss them, but I'm not mad...I dont care less. I just accept it for what it is, and smile when the opportunities come along for time to be spent together, though its usually quite limited  |
_________________
WoW - Gilneas server
A - Lixx (80) | Kahlanrahl (71) | Sci (74) | Lixxi (71) | Lixxia (51)
H - Sciler (35) | Lixxie (8 )
Is a cat durid for eat sum1's hed & stuf? OMG YES LOL! |
|
|
|
 |
Wins 1 - Losses 0
Level 3 |
EXP: 0
HP: 2125
|
STR: 775
END: 675
ACC: 500
AGI: 750
|
Cat-o-Nine-Tails (Sword)
(215 - 345) |
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Terin
Huzzah!
Gender:
Joined: 27 Oct 2003 |
| Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 8:00 pm Post subject: |
| Sciler wrote: | Yes, there are men who do it as well.
As much as it sucks to "lose" a friend, its sadly a part of life and growing up. I doubt that any of us can say that we keep in touch with our best friends or social circles as much as we did 10 or 15 years ago, and are as truely close now in as many ways, as we were back then.
Things just...change. It's how we adapt to that change, that either allows friendships to remain strong, or they faulter under the lack of socializing that previously was there every day.
Some of mine remain strong, though the distance is great, and quite a few have fallen further and further off the radar as people get thier own lives and families forming. It sucks, I miss them, but I'm not mad...I dont care less. I just accept it for what it is, and smile when the opportunities come along for time to be spent together, though its usually quite limited |
That I understand, and that's ok. But when they're online and you try to talk to them and they don't respond, and this goes on for like a week, it's a different story 
-T |
|
|
|
|
|
Wins 41 - Losses 57
Level 10 |
EXP: 4282
HP: 2330
|
STR: 850
END: 740
ACC: 1000
AGI: 710
|
Magnificent Mace of 1000 Misses (Mace)
(370 - 400) |
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Sciler
Mistress
Age: 45
Gender:
Joined: 15 Sep 2002 |
| Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 11:22 pm Post subject: |
I used to be guilty of that. I would turn AIM on and then go AFK and check messages later lol....but now I havent been on AIM in forever, down to once a year now, if that. |
_________________
WoW - Gilneas server
A - Lixx (80) | Kahlanrahl (71) | Sci (74) | Lixxi (71) | Lixxia (51)
H - Sciler (35) | Lixxie (8 )
Is a cat durid for eat sum1's hed & stuf? OMG YES LOL! |
|
|
|
|
Wins 1 - Losses 0
Level 3 |
EXP: 0
HP: 2125
|
STR: 775
END: 675
ACC: 500
AGI: 750
|
Cat-o-Nine-Tails (Sword)
(215 - 345) |
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Jaena
Senior Otaku
Gender:
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 |
| Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 11:53 am Post subject: |
Or you can completely lose touch with them for a few years and then get in contact again 
There is a bumper sticker thing on myspace somewhere about that... something about TRUE friendships and really caring about someone not requiring contact with them all the time.
As for being the "tiding over" friend... I've been that. And then I was there again when that relationship went south. |
_________________
 |
|
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
KiSin
Reality's Exiled
Gender:
Joined: 12 Oct 2004 |
| Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 8:09 am Post subject: |
If that has happened to me, I have never noticed. o.o I don't put a lot of thought into it. |
|
|
|
|
 |
Wins 108 - Losses 113
Level 17 |
EXP: 9551
HP: 2300
|
STR: 900
END: 700
ACC: 1250
AGI: 1250
|
Kage Boken (Sword)
(390 - 590) |
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Ultrawolf
Mr. Roarke
Gender:
Joined: 04 Jul 2003 |
| Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 9:20 am Post subject: |
I wouldn't stress about it, whoever it is probably isn't worth your time. |
_________________
Welcome... |
|
|
|
 |
Wins 115 - Losses 130
Level 17 |
EXP: 831
HP: 2800
|
STR: 1000
END: 900
ACC: 1100
AGI: 1000
|
Legacy (Shotgun)
(400 - 550) |
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
(III)The Spork Fairy(III)
Rookie
Gender:
Joined: 02 Oct 2008 |
| Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 5:15 pm Post subject: |
Have a spork (III), and call me in the morning!
Some peeps are just like that, they get a new relationship and get sucked into that bubble...that's why i like sporks, they have enough pointiness to pop that bubble, but with the smoothness so that no one notices it was you who did it.
Have a Spoky Day! *spork |
_________________
 |
|
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
|
