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Shino
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 Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2004 3:08 pm Post subject: The End of a Wonderful Relationship - 1 Year and 8 Months |
Well, I wanted to finally say this to everyone.
This is not an attempt to get you guys to cheer me up or anything, because honestly, you all have your own lives to worry about. However, it is something I want to tell you.
Doot and some of the other GA POs already know this.
As of Friday, July 23 2004, Skibirdi and I are no longer together.
This decision was hers. She is starting grad school in a couple of weeks, and she feels that this was something that she had to do. I know it was a hard decision for her to make. She is taking it a little harder than I am. Surprisingly enough to me. However, I'm still having trouble with the situation. It's not everyday the best thing that ever happened to you decides not to be there anymore. I have cried my tears on many shoulders, and I appreciate those shoulders for being there. Especially Doot. I love you girl!
This is something I saw coming. Things have been different. Things like her not saying "I love you" nearly as much as she used to. Other things as well.
Please know this, I have no hostile feelings toward Skibirdi. We built our relationship on a very very strong friendship. Because of this, we are working to keep our friendship in tact. She said that she feels inside that this is something she had to do. And I understand that. If that were to happen to me, It would be a difficult decision. But the choices are hard. Say "What if" for the rest of your life, or take a chance which could result in you making the biggest mistake of your life, or the best decision of your life. There was nothing wrong with our relationship per say. We were always having fun together and we were always happy together, but this is something she felt she needed to do.
Skibirdi, if you ever get around to reading this, I want you to know that you did more for me than anyone can possibly imagine. You made me a better person, and for that, I will always Thank You.
You will always have a very special place in my heart. I have over a year and a half of incredible, wonderful memories with you, and they will always be memories that I treasure.
The chances that she will be on the board anymore are not very high, but I want you all to know that Skibirdi is a wonderful person and I don't want anyone to think otherwise. If she does come back on, I want everyone to treat her the same way you always have.
Skibirdi, you are a diamond in the rough, I hope you find another that will treat you that way.
Yesterday she called me and told me that she missed me a lot and that she still wanted us to be close. Still hang out, still talk but as friends. I agreed. I hope that we can do this. I think we can as we are both mature adults.
In Bee's last rant thread, I stated that "Nice guys always finish last, but they finish strong." Well, it seems as if I'm not finished yet. God has other plans for me.
Everything happens for a reason! I hope I find that reason soon.
To Minah:
I will always have love for you
I will always have respect for you
I will always have trust in you
I will always be honest with you
I will always be your friend
I wish you luck in all that you do.
Thank you all for listening. This is a hard time for me. Skibirdi was the longest relationship I was ever in. But I will recover. She will recover, and things will turn out the way they are meant to.
Christopher Dennis Riccio
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| Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2004 4:18 pm Post subject: |
Don't worry Shino, everything happens for a reason. I firmly believe in that. Although it must hurt now things will work out. And if you ever need to talk I'm here. But it sounds like you already have a bunch of awesome people surrounding you, which is what I would reccomend that the moment!! Love ya  |
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Sperrit
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| Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2004 5:07 pm Post subject: |
There isn't much that I can say here, buddy. At least nothing new, nothing that hasn't already been said by other friends, closer friends. I can't know all the details of your relationship and how and why the break-up occured. That's something that, really, only you can her can know. I won't assume to tell you it's for the best or that there's a reason for it because I don't know that either. Lots of people say: Everything happens for a reason! God has a plan! But, to me, it seems merely like hubris to assume that anyone can know God or Fate that well.
However, I can tell you this:
You are a good man. You care deeply about people. You feel drawn to help others, even those that you do not know. You are a strong man. When you commit to something you commit to it fully. You never give up. You are intelligent, wise and very mature. If I know women at all, then I know that these are all things that they would look for in a man that they wanted to share their lives with. You will not end up alone, Chris. You will get through this with the same strength you show in all things. Perhaps it will take a long time, but some time, some day, when you're not even really looking for it, you will run into someone who will make your heart stop and you will no longer have to be alone.
This I know.
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| Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2004 6:14 pm Post subject: |
If there was nothing that could be done, then find solace in knowing that it was a wonderful time. You had a great run, and as always happens, people come and go in our lives. We cannot change that, and we don't often get to decide when someone leaves.
Take comfort in knowing that you've got a great support net of friends around you that care about you. If I was in Atlanta, I'd know I would come buy you a drink, or ten, and tell you some dirty jokes. |
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| Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2004 11:40 pm Post subject: |
Oh Shino, I dont know Skibirdi and you very well or what happened but I like both of you.. I cried while reading your thread, it may sound silly but I really cry, I feel what both of you are goin thru but I respect you for understanding and accepting her decision.
To Skibirdi, good luck with your study and be strong, ok. |
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| Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2004 11:48 pm Post subject: |
I really don't want to go into this because I'm really not in the state of mind to think about relationships...but I am sorry for you man. It's just not easy letting something go when it means so much to you. I know how it feels when you love something and you have to give it up because it's better for the other. I'm really sorry man. |
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| Posted: Wed Jul 28, 2004 11:58 pm Post subject: |
Is the whole reason you are breaking up because she has to go to school for a year or two?
I mean you both seem to still care about each other. Long distance relationships are hard but I would think you should at least try and make it work. Because the only way you have no chance of success is when you don't try.
Anyway, I am sorry things didn't work out for you guys. But life goes on, stay strong bro. |
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Faye
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| Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2004 12:33 am Post subject: |
I am truly sorry man. I dont know you very well, but what I do know I like and if the things people have told me about you on and off this forum are the least bit true you will make a recovery and you will not be alone for long. I will not pretend to know what you are going through, because I honestly dont think I have ever experienced love like that. Good luck to you.
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| Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2004 1:01 am Post subject: |
Shino man, I am so sorry. I was going to give you words to console you, but it seems like everything I could have possibly thought to say has already been said by the wonderful people here...and that says a lot when you think about it. It just shows how much people love you, and what kind of a person you really are, and what you mean to everyone...even people like myself who have never even met you in person.
You're a great guy, and I there is no doubt in my mind that everything will turn out for the best. You said it best yourself, "Nice guys finish last, but they finish strongest". Believe me, a guy like yourself is in for one hell of a finish.
I hope that you feel better soon, and seriously...if you ever need someone to talk to, you're more than welcome to talk to me. Just hit me up on AIM or something...MingtheM3rcil3ss.
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Shino
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| Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2004 8:27 am Post subject: |
Thank you all. This is one of the largest reasons I am so happy that Doot and I started this Site. Someone falls, and everyone gathers to help them up. I waited a while to post about this b/c I thought it would hurt to much to post it right away. It was a little easier to do it 5 days later.
Well I'm responding to people now, so this may be a long one.
Let the sappiness begin!
| underpants wrote: | Don't worry Shino, everything happens for a reason. I firmly believe in that.
And if you ever need to talk I'm here.
It sounds like you already have a bunch of awesome people surrounding you, which is what I would reccomend that the moment!! Love ya |
I believe that too UP.
Thank you for your words, and thank you for IMing me yesterday. It meant more to me than you can know. I hope Ming has an inkling of how lucky of a guy he is!
| Sperrit wrote: | Lots of people say: Everything happens for a reason! God has a plan! But, to me, it seems merely like hubris to assume that anyone can know God or Fate that well.
You are a good man. You care deeply about people. You feel drawn to help others, even those that you do not know. You are a strong man. When you commit to something you commit to it fully. You never give up. You are intelligent, wise and very mature. |
Well I don't claim to know God's plan, or what fate will bring, but there is a reason behind this happening. Whether it be a reason that I will see or one that she will see, that has yet to be determined.
Sperrit, thank you for your words. It's nice to see that people view you in such light as you stated above. I know I will be fine. I know I will find something else. When, I'm not sure. But I know I will. I'm a little too optimistic not to believe that.
| Reverend wrote: | If there was nothing that could be done, then find solace in knowing that it was a wonderful time. You had a great run, and as always happens, people come and go in our lives. We cannot change that, and we don't often get to decide when someone leaves.
Take comfort in knowing that you've got a great support net of friends around you that care about you. If I was in Atlanta, I'd know I would come buy you a drink, or ten, and tell you some dirty jokes. |
Well, I guess the good thing is that she came into my life, but she will never leave. Our relationship may have changed, but we will retain our strong friendship.
I do have good friends here. Doot and Toolman were there the night it happened, allowing me to let it out on their shoulder. I hope they both know how much I love them both for that!
And Rev, even though you are far from us, you are still part of our little family we have created... OH... and you will get your chance to buy me beer at AWA. 
| Skylah wrote: | | Oh Shino, I dont know Skibirdi and you very well or what happened but I like both of you.. I cried while reading your thread, it may sound silly but I really cry, I feel what both of you are goin thru but I respect you for understanding and accepting her decision. |
Sky, it doesn't sound silly at all. UP IMed me before she responded stating the same thing. It seems to be something I'm good at. I can make women laugh, I can make women cry. And both I do without meaning to. I was tearing up when writing it. And I was tearing up while reading some of the wonderful responses from the people I have come to care for so much. Sky, I know that you and I don't know eachother very well, but while I was writing this, although I didn't know who would respond, for some reason, I knew you would. Mainly b/c what I do know about you is that you care about people, even if you don't know them.
There is really no way in my heart that I could NOT understand and respect her decision. If I was in the same position, I would probably have to do the same thing. We will remain friends b/c we have no reason not to be. Our relationship was built on the three biggest supports... Communication, Honesty, and Trust. If your relationship has that, you are going to have a good one. If it's missing one, there will be problems. Things like Jealousy and Deception had no place in our relationship or our friendship. That's how I know I can trust what she is doing.
Sky, thank you for your words. You are an awesome chick and hope you get all the wonderful things you deserve in life.
| reaper wrote: | Is the whole reason you are breaking up because she has to go to school for a year or two?
I mean you both seem to still care about each other. Long distance relationships are hard but I would think you should at least try and make it work. Because the only way you have no chance of success is when you don't try.
Anyway, I am sorry things didn't work out for you guys. But life goes on, stay strong bro. |
Reaps, I will start by saying you are absolutly right. But the fact that she is going to school is not the reason. Her going away to school may have started it, but there is something inside her that is telling her that she had to do this because if she didn't, she would miss out on something in Grad school and would say "what if?" for the rest of her life. That's a hard decision. Stay and say "what if?" forever. Leave, find out its a huge mistake. Or leave and it's the right decision. This was a tough decision for her. And it was much harder on her than it was on me. Everyone told me that "She didn't know what she was throwing away" and stuff like that. And when she called me up, and asked me how everyone was taking it, I told her that. She replied with, "That's just it Chris. That's why this is so hard for me. I DO know what I'm throwing away. I know how wonderful you are. And I could be making the biggest mistake of my life, but I have to know for sure." I know that and I respect and understand that.
You are right, life does go on, and I will stay strong. Thanks bro.
| Faye wrote: | | I dont know you very well, but what I do know I like and if the things people have told me about you on and off this forum are the least bit true you will make a recovery and you will not be alone for long. I will not pretend to know what you are going through, because I honestly dont think I have ever experienced love like that. Good luck to you. |
Faye, you are another that I am not suprised replied here. Since you and Dai came on here, I have learned that you are two very caring and respectful people. You have earned my respect and you have earned my trust. I look forward to meeting you both at AWA!
[mark]Thank you for your words. I think everyone has times when they are not sure what to think about how people view them. I'm that way. There are some days when I know that I'm among 300+ caring individuals on this wonderful website we have. It's nice to think that they all respect you. But when you are down, it's hard to keep that focus and not feel that you are alone.[/mark]
This is why what you said means so much. Thank you Faye.
| Ming wrote: | but it seems like everything I could have possibly thought to say has already been said by the wonderful people here...and that says a lot when you think about it. It just shows how much people love you, and what kind of a person you really are, and what you mean to everyone...even people like myself who have never even met you in person.
You're a great guy, and I there is no doubt in my mind that everything will turn out for the best. You said it best yourself, "Nice guys finish last, but they finish strongest". Believe me, a guy like yourself is in for one hell of a finish. |
Thank you Ming. You are a good guy. From what I see from you on here, and from what I hear from others (Especially UP), you, also, have very much earned my respect and trust my friend. You are right, I'm surrounded by a large group of wonderful people. Insert [mark][/mark]ed section above, here
I look forward to that "hell of a finish" you speak of. I know it will come, and it will be worth it.
And that whole "never met in person" thing... yeah that will be resolved at AWA my friend.
LAST BUT DEFINATLY NOT LEAST!
| Graillik Tur wrote: | | I really don't want to go into this because I'm really not in the state of mind to think about relationships...but I am sorry for you man. It's just not easy letting something go when it means so much to you. I know how it feels when you love something and you have to give it up because it's better for the other. I'm really sorry man. |
GT, it sounds like you have been though something similar recently. Thank you for posting here. You are right, it is very hard. But it is something we do b/c we are not selfish people. All I ever wanted was her happyness. If that is something she can find easier with me as her friend instead of her significant other, then I respect that, and I will continue to do everything I can to see that she is happy.
Wow, that was long.
I want you to know that I love you all. I could never in my dreams have imagined that when Doot and I started this, it would grow to be such an incredible place.
Thank you. It's nice to see that people do care!
I did not spell check this post so please excuse the "teh infected"ness of it.
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