Stalker

[Skylah]

I was involved with an important meeting from Sept 1 to 4, my company organized annually called ‘International Advisory Panel’ meeting which involved the CEO’s of big IT & Multimedia company e.g. Microsoft, BT Multimedia, Nokia, Erickson, Sun Microsystems, DEL, HP, IBM etc

During this meeting, we were provided with hotel room, transportation and meals as we have to work on 3 shifts. My company hire a part time driver (let me call him Mr. X) to send us from the hotel to convention center or any places we want/have to go.

On Sept 1: 9.00pm, he send me and another friend back to hotel and the other 2 back to their house, when he send my friends home, he heard my friends talking about me and said I have pretty name and he’s wondering which one is me.

On Sept 2: 7.00am, my frens called n told me that they are goin straight from their house to the convention centre and the other guy who stayed at the hotel have left earlier, so I have to called Mr. X to pick me up at the lobby, so when I got to the car, I introduce myself and he started making conversation with me, being a friendly person I talk to him and he said he have heard my name and think it’s a very pretty name and I am a pretty person. He asked where I stay, I did not tell him exactly where I stay instead I told him I live with my parents, and he asked if I’m married, and I said nope bcos if I am, I wont be staying with my family. He told me, he has given up love and marriage bcos he has been married 3 times and all of em failed.. well by this time we have arrived at the convention centre and I thank him and left, he followed me, he said he want to get breakfast and the whole time walking down to the café, he was complimenting on me and I did not say anything except smiling.. I saw my friends and join them.

5.00pm, he send us back to hotel, then he called, he asked what I’m doin at night, I told him nothing, I just want to go to bed right away cos I am so tired, he asked me out for dinner and I said no promises cos I’ll probably sleep till morning bcos I have to wake up at 6.00am.

8.45pm, he called and ask if I’m up, and I told him he woke me up, I realized I was alone in my room and I’m hungry and he asked if I want to go dinner (he is supposed to take us anywhere we want to go) and I said ok, I’ll be at the lobby in 15 mins.. I called my fren and ask if she want dinner and she said yes n to pick her up in office, he was happy to see me but his face changes when I told him we have to go pick my fren, anyway we had dinner and he send us back but he asked me to stay cos he wants to take me around and I said nope, I don’t want and lucky my fren backing me up saying she’s scared to stay alone in the room.. After he left, he called and again persuade me to go out with him, I don’t want to be rude so I told him it’s late and I have to wake up early and I’m tired.. He keeps on calling and text me until 2.30am.. He said he’s waiting outside my room.

On Sept 3: 7.00am, I went to convention centre with my friends bcos I’m not comfortable riding with Mr. X, he was waiting for me and pissed I did not ride with him.. he send text msg, he told me he misses me (wtf) and ask me to have breakfast with him, I did not reply his text so he called, I told him I already have breakfast with my friends, and he asked me to have lunch, tea break n dinner with him, I told him I’m busy and I have to be with my colleagues during the breaks.. He starts calling me darling, honey, love… ewwwww it give me goosebump.. I have to ask my friends to pick up my mobile and give excuses not to talk to him, I cant switch off my mobile in case my superior or other colleagues calls me, when I don’t pick up n reply his text, he started following me every where I go and stop me when no one around, he asked why I’m running from him, I told him I have work to do and he have to understand that, I told him I don’t like him calling me darling, honey and such, I said I don’t mind bein his friend but not more than that and he told me he is falling in love with me and he think this is his love at first sight and he is very jealous when other peoples talking to me.. omg give me a break, he barely knows me, its only a day, how the hell can he fall in love and it was just yesterday he told me he have given up on love and marriages cos all his 3 marriages failed.. I told him nicely that I’m not looking for love, I’m here to work and I hope he respect me and I left.. He sends me text saying his sorry but his feeling for me is real.. I went back to hotel with my friends and he keep on calling n textin me up till 2.00am (I never switch off my mobile even when I’m asleep just in case of emergency but I have to switch if off cos of him, he called more than 20 times and fill up my msg box)

On Sept 4: he haven’t stop calling and sendng text, I avoided him, anywhere I go, I asked my friends to follow me, I can see he’s watching me from far.. I report to the security and the officer said they will look into the matters.. I complained to my superior and he said they will black list him for the next event.. I never pick up his calls or reply to his text.

On Sept 5: I got 45 calls from him and in 1 of his text msg, he said he’s goin to make sure that I fall for him, he said something about black magic, I replied saying that he should leave me alone as I am engaged to be married, if he really likes me, I’m sure he will want to see me happy. He said I will be happy with him. I told him if he stalkin me again I will report to the police. He stopped calling and sending text.

Today Sept 7: He called but I ignored so he send text, he apologies and want to be friend, he ask if we can go out sometimes, I told him nicely its not a good idea and I told him again stop calling and sending messages cos I wont think twice to report to the police.

I think he is sick, I am lucky he don’t know where I stay and he really freaked me out. I just hope he stop calling.. This is the 1st time I experience such thing and it really scared me off. The most thing I’m afraid is to hurt anyone’s feeling but when I’m bein nice, some peoples take it wrongly, I guess I have to stop being ‘Miss Goody Goody’

[underpants]

I had someone stalk me when I was younger and it was really scary. He would call me all the time and leave me tons of voicemails, he would even show up beofre I went to school in the morning and when I came out in the afternoon! I was soo scared, but I was afraid to tell my parents because they didn't know about him. The guy even had his cousin's start to call me and leave me voicemails! I was so scared and pissed off at the same time that when he called I said that if he didn't stop following me and calling me I'd call the cops and do whatever I could to have him removed!!!! I was really strong about this, and he never bothered me again!!!
I'm a very nice person too, and I hate to hurt other people's feelings, but when it comes to something like stalking you can't be nice any more!
It was a good thing that you shared that with us, because it's too scary to go through alone. I know. I hope this has helped you. Please be safe.

[Azurel]

Wow...I wish girls would do that to me ^^

That's really freaky. I've heard of things happening like that, but not to someone I know (for as much as I know you). The fact that he still has your number would scare me. How did he get it anyways? I don't know what to say, if he calls again, call the cops anyways.

[Shino]

[Skylah]

[Faye]

Dont you hesitate Sky. If he calls even one more time you need to let the police handle it. If he leaves any threatening voicmails or text messages, be sure to save them. All of it could be used as evidence should the need arise.

You are right, people that stalk are sick and have some serious mental problems. With the Internet the way it is now days, you dont need much more than a name to find someones home address. I dont mean to worry you but you need to watch you back. Be careful. There are a lot of crazies in this world and we dont want to lose one of our family to one of them.

[Skylah]

Yes, thanx Faye, I have talk to my dad, Mr. X havent call today which is good, I hope he got what I mean this time.

[reaper]

Stalkers should be beaten, and for a nominal fee I am willing to come over there and regulate for you.

But really don't take any chances with this guy you really never know the kind of evil a person is capable of. He may just be a little off, or he may be a complete psycho. I would hate to see something happen to you.

[Skylah]

nominal fee? what are you talking about, I tot you're willing to do anything for me *kidding*

I really appreciated y'all advice, concern n caringness.. I will take care and take this matter seriously.

[BWS-1]

The way I see it, he is probably more of a desperate loner then a full-fledged psycho. The major difference with the psyco and the desperate type is that, the psycho will hold on to his victim untill he got to do/get what he wanted from her, the desperate type will prabably feel the same way, only if it gets too hard to keep track of his victim, he might give up, or what might make him turn his head away from his victim will be the presence of an other person, a futur victim, that would become a ''safer move'' for him to give up on the alerted victim and try on an innocent one.

Most desperate people will go on and on from a victim to an other and as soon as it gets too hot, they retreat and look for something else. But it doesn't mean they are less dangerous. It would be like comparing a bolt action rifle with a full-auto SMG ... sure the bolt action takes time to shoot, and sure the SMG has a higher rate of fire but remember, no mather what gun shoots you, it takes one well-placed bullet to drop you dead ... it's a kinda bitter and dark metaphor, but I can't think of anything better right now ^^;;

I think the WORST type would be the, if such type exists but, considering the amount of people on this planet, and the mental instability of a bunch of 'em, I wouldn't be suprised there would be the ''desperate psychos''. I truely beleive that this stalker of yours is not part of that type, but I have too lil knowledge of his behaviors and background to be able to speculate more about what he might or might not be up to do in the futur, but I hope he gave up.