Worried sick...

[Chrysia]

Lately I have been worried about one of my online friends. He and I are very close , even for two people that haven't really met. I care for him greatly and I wish he lived closer, because then I know we would be a couple. He is kinda my first love and I care more for him in that way than I ever have and he showed me the same kind of care and love back. Anyway, he hasn't been on for over two months and it isn't like him to leave without telling me where he is. The last time he dissapeared on me was when he was in the hospital for a month and I fear something has happened to him again. I feel that sometimes I am literally worried sick. Maybe it is silly of me to think this way, but I care for him a lot and I don't know what I can do. Any suggestions?

[Sperrit]

Wow... that's a very complicated situation you have there, Chrysia.
As a rule I don't advocate online relationships because they are so hard to create and maintain on a realistic level. You just don't get enough of a picture of someone to know that you love them by communicating with them online. That's not to say that it isn't possible. I actually know some people who met the man/woman of their dreams through the internet. The point is that it's very rare. Now, I obviously can't speak to your situation, so I can't really say whether or not this relationship is a good idea. I suppose that the tenuous nature of your communication is just one downside to having an online relationship: If he can't get online then you can't speak to him and it is hard to find out if anything has happened to him.
For your sake and for his, I hope that he is alright and that he is merely taken up by other obligations and he will return to you shortly. In the meantime, I think that all you can do is wait. I will keep you in my thoughts.
If you ever want to talk about anything, need an ear to lean on or someone to rant to, feel free to drop me a line. I've always interested to hear from new people and more than happy to help in any way that I can!

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[Chrysia]

I fully understand what you said about online relationships. I tried to avoid it and I used to think it wasn't a good idea myself. But I don't know what happened.
Thanks though. I appreciate the advice.

[Therin]

What can be said? Emotions all too often do things we wish they wouldn't, and just as often we don't know why. I agree with Sperrit that it is extremely hard to maintain a real relationship over the internet, or even long distance at all, because the act of talking to someone in person is simply so much more in every way than just words on a screen, or a voice over the phone. It's like comparing the old silent movies of the early twenties or whenever they were to the graphical astonishments that we have now. There are one or two silent movies that simply are perfect, a brilliant use of all the tools available at the time. Then there are others, and these are more common, which were boring and unenjoyable, but which would probably be oscar-worthy, were they to have been made with today's tools.

The biggest disadvantage to a long-distance relationship is that if, for one reason or another, you cannot reach someone, there is nothing that you can reasonably do. At all. Except wait, and hope.

That having been said, I hope your friend is ok. The only advice I can give, and I apologize but this may sound heartless, is to step back, stop worrying, and keep living your life. He'll be back whenever he comes back, and there isn't really anything you can do about it.

[Chrysia]

It's not heartless at all, Therin. I've tried to stop caring, but I failed miserabley. I don't even know how I got myself into this mess. I even told him that I don't readily approve of online/long distance relationships because of the repercussions and difficulties. And somehow he managed to drag me into something more than online friends.

[Sperrit]

Well, for your sake, I hope that he turns out true and that nothing too terrible has befallen him.
Also, great analogy Therin. Works very nicely!

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[Chrysia]

Thanks. It means a lot to me.

[Daijaga]

Have you tried to contact him irl? Getting awa from teh whole relationship to-doodle. Im actualy kinda concerend about him. I've always worred a lot about my old friends whom Ive just lost touch with or one day never showed up again. ITs not like youd know if anything happened to them, one day they just never log on AIM and you'd never know the difference. I dont mean to sounds like a negitive nancy, but if you know his irl name and phone or at least city, I'd try to contact him or a family member and make sure he's ok. Let them know your a friend of his from...er...dont say the internet, sounds lame, say school or something...and you hadnt seen him for a while.

Anywho, do keep us updated on your buddy, now you've gotten me concerend >_<

P.S., is that the person in the 'Brother' image you posted on your artwork?

[Chrysia]

I know that he has my cell phone number, but he doesn't have one. And I didn't want him to get in trouble for a long distance call etc. But I have no way to contact him. He said he was getting a cell soon, but then he dissapeared.

Edit--No. That is someone who has gotten me through a lot of my worry and also is like a brother to me.

[Thatrous]

Well gee, maybe if ya woulda told me about this...?! After all ive told you thinking i could trust you to tell me of your problems at least a little...you go and pull this?! *silent treatment*

(btw, I knew you couldnt get through high school...you know the rest)