An unexpected text message.

[Faye]

I came home sick from work this morning.... I had some terrible stomach virus that has been "going around". Which is funny because I am the only person I know that has had it. Anyways, my phone does the whole ring thing around 1:30 this afternoon and its an AIM message that got redirected to my phone from an old friend of mine in Houston. He sent his number in one of his messages so I gave him a call. Turns out my friend and his GF from back when we were both freshmen at University of Houston had been goin out all this time and had decided to get married in August just after they both Graduate. Needless to say I was a bit shocked. When we were freshmen Nelson, the friend in question, was a pot Smoking alcoholic that was doing good if he even made it to class. Kitty, Nelson's gf, was almost as bad minus the pot.

Apparently my name came up as they were making a list of people to invite to the wedding. We were pretty close for the 10 months I lived in Houston. I mean I was there when he met kitty. In fact I remember taking them back to their place on several occasions, putting nelson on his bed while Alyssa, my only gf worth speakin of, was holding kitty's hair while she puked. Ah..... those were fun times. Anyways this is hardly the reason for this post. I just felt like blabbing a bit before I got to the point.

We got to talking and catching up on some things, I gave him my address so he could send me an invite. The question came up if I would be bringing anyone. The fact that I probably wouldnt even be able to come hadn't come up yet, but the fact that I am minus a significant other is always a little touchy for me. Kitty and Nelson were both smart people, even when they were freshmen and were alcoholics, I knew they were smart. The fact that Kitty was graduating with a Bachelors in Phsycology, didnt help my case much at this point. Well apparently my "Tone" is what she caught on to and she wanted to talk about why I didnt have a gf. Kitty was always a bit pushy when I knew her, but she was a good friend. She was there to help if you needed someone to talk to, drunk or otherwise.

Now I am getting to the point..... whew I never new how long winded I could be. Anyways..... the question came up.... "What are you looking for in a woman?" This kinda caught me offguard. I had never actually even thought about this question seriously. Shortly after the question was asked while I was in the middle of sputturing out an answer my mother drove up with dinner so I told Kitty I would think on it and get back with her. I'll prolly just email her a link to this thread when I am finished.

What I want in a woman:
I want a woman that will tell me that if I beat her in a match at Guilty Gear, she will do the dishes. Then she sits down and whips my ass. I want a woman that will play a chick in one of Daijaga's D&D games. so I dont have to. I want a woman would just as soon rent the first disc of a good anime series, as any live action movie out there. I want a woman that I can bug to finish a book, so I can start reading it. I want a woman that makes my by another computer.... just so we can play WoW together. Most importantly, I want a woman that can make me feel the way the Nelson does about Kitty, or Daijaga about Aradia, or the way Excel does about Kyiomi.

Is that asking too much?? Am I being too picky?? Probably. I have been told on several occasions that I shouldn't set my standards so high. I know I am not going to find the woman of my dreams in any bar, or at any party. In fact the best chance I have for finding the woman of my dreams is at the anime section at the local blockbuster or the fantasy section of the local bookstore. Who knows? I'm just babbling and its getting late. This is just something I thought I'd share with you all. Feel free to post what you all want in a woman.... or a man for that matter.

Peace.

[Therin]

Interesting. IMO, you're not asking too much at all. There isn't really any such thing as too much or too little, you're just looking for someone who isn't every day fare. Which is good. It'll make things interesting, at the very least ^_^

As for me...I want someone whom I can love, and who will love me back. Everything else is secondary.

[Faye]

Damnit Therin..... you make my sound like a selfcentered ass!!!:p Dont get me wrong. Loving someone and being loved back is all that I could really ask for. When that kind of person comes along those other things will be secondary. I will accept that person no matter what. But until that person comes along..... I can dream cant I??

[Therin]

lol, sorry Faye. What I meant by that is that I don't know what I want, other than that So in a way, you have the advantage, knowing what to look for and all ^_^

I just end up falling for anyone who shows me any attention <_<

[Silver Adept]

You want what you want. There's a good chance that there's someone out there who can do precisely what you want. Finding her, that could be the fun part.

But you don't sound like an egotist. What you said and what Therin said are the same thing, if you look past the specifics. It's what everyone would like to have in a significant other. Some are just lucky enough to have found them by now.

[Graillik Tur]

I could have sworn we went over this before many times Faye. And your still left with your first problem...ya gotta get out there and meet mis-anime. Till then, your not really gonna get anywhere.

Check ya later.

[Shandriz]

I don't think you're being too demanding. In fact, I don't believe there -is- such a thing. Heavens know I'm terribly picky about who I'm willing to date...it's been around four years since the last guy I went out with, and he was my best friend whom it took me three years or so to decide to actually date!

Besides, I think you're not really setting up specific demands. That is, if she doesn't do those -exact- things, you won't be upset. It's more the spirit of them you're interested in-- a chick who has similar interests, and who you know you can have a good time with in any situation.

Though..*looks at the list* until you find another girl who fits those qualities, you can always hang with me! Heavens know I've done all of those. Whipped Shino-sama in Guilty Gear X (YAY FOR DIZZY), play multiple chicks (AT ONE TIME) in D&D, rented an Anime over a live action, and all I read are fantasy novels (and manga and Battle Royale, but those count as fantasy too, in a way!) ...admittedly, I haven't played WoW, but that's because my computer sucks.

But don't worry about finding a girl who fits your demands. I know I wasn't expecting to find anyone who fit mine because I'm so finicky. But I did. ^^ Yay for opportunity falling in your lap.

And really, another good way for you to meet that sort of girl? PO. xD. Conventions. There are plenty of ways to meet chicks with common interests!

[reaper]

Personaly I would forget about things that you would like to do with the girl. That is really compleatly irrelavent. A lasting mutual relationship is not based on the fact that you both play D&D, WoW, or whatever.

If you want a good relationship you are going to have to figure out what emotional and mental qualities you want in a girl. And many people can be turned onto anime and the like after the fact. But just look for the lasting things in a person first.

good luck

[RivaOni]

ill tell you a story

when i met chixie (she posted on here a cple of times thanks to me being on here everyday lol) we didnt really have much in common, we actually met online and was just having a bit of a laugh, id been talked into going into a chat room on one occasion, and made a few friends, anyway she was in there, we had a laugh that night, and for a few nights afterwards, i was going through a realy tough patch where i didnt really know who i was anymore, and i was sat up all night till 7 am everyday, and she was willing to sit up with me and just chat. anyway we eventually got round to swapping numbers, then she'd phone me every night, this went on for a few weeks before we decided to meet up, she'd seen what i looked like thru a pic i took on a friends web cam, but i didnt know what she looked like,

because we lived in different parts of england we decided one of us woulld have to stay at the others house, my mum agreed to it so she came up to where i was living at the time. she wasn't the greatest looking girl but thats never mattered to me, all that matters to me is that we shared the same sort of sense of humour. anyway that weekend we hired out aload of films from our local blockbuster and watched a couple of my anime VHS's (akira and Ghost In The Shell) which has since turned her onto anime (specifially princess mononoke and spirited away).

she visited a few more times, then i had a fall out with my mum that was more down to my (now ex) step dad more than anything, i decided it was time to move out, but as i had to go more or less there and then rather than wait months to find somewhere of my own in my hometown (and i couldnt go to y dads coz i didnt get on with my step mum at all, even worse than i did my step dad) i called her asking for help, her mum agreed to let me move into theirs where i lived for almost 2 years, we had a baby, had a few problems with social services due to over-crowdin, had our own problems with each other, but we've come through all of that and now have a house together with our daughter and getting on better than ever, we moved out of herm ums back in september last year, and have only had 2 or 3 big arguments compared to when we were living there it would be every other month.

boring story i know, but what im trying to say is:

dont go looking for someone, it'll just happen when its supposed to, both me and chixie have said in the past we didnt think we'd last tihs long, especially with the ammount of arguments we had at one point but we're stronger than ever now, and we have more in common now too

[Faye]

I should have just posted Graillicks responce for him..... I knew thats what he would say.... almost word for word. Anyways thanks everyone that responded.... and to anyone that still feels its necissary to respond. I suppose I am just waiting for the right moment.....I dont know.

BTW Reaper... your exactly right. Kitty called me on that this morning at about 2 AM after she got her email. I talked with her about it for another 30 minutes or so. Apparently I have pretty high expectations for emotional and mental qualities of a woman as well. Though I am with Riva.... physical appearances are a moot point when it comes to the grand sceme of things.

Thanks Shandriz.... never thought about you. Shino you may have some competition...... when I get to Atlanta :p

PS Her name is Katherine, we all just called her Kitty for short..... She told me if I didnt correct that she would hurt me. *cowers in fear*