Advice needed (i know you guys are sick of me asking for it)

[Zzyxx]

Man,
Im really confused right now.
Here is the situation:
I'm going out with a great girl named Bonnie,
We dated around for two weeks or so before i aked her out
WE have been going out for a little over month,
Here is the problem:
I'm starting to wonder if i jumped the gun on asking her out.
I mean, i really like her and i'm happy,
There are no problems between us,
I just think that maybe i should have stayed single for a while longer.
I kinda wish that i had wait till a few weeks into the semester,
After i had had a chance to actually date around with a few girls at my school,
I mean,
I don't want to sound sleezy,
But i really wonder if i acted too soon and let me short term infatuation cloud my judgement.
Again,
I really like Bonnie and i would never want to hurt her,
Which is part of the reason i wish i had waited longer.
If i had then if had found soething that was a better fit or she found something that was a better fit there would have been no strings attatched,
And ther hurt would have been much less.
BUt now i'm pretty sure that she is alot more into me than i am into her,
And i don't know what to do.
I don't really feel i can talk about this with Bonnie because i know even hinting about something like this would hurt her alot.
I don't want to break up,
I don't want to be tied down,
I guess i'm just trying to figure out if i made the right choice,
Or if i rushed into something that may end up hurting me and someone i care about without thinking it through first....
I don't know what i'm going to do,
And you know maybe this is just the distance having an effect.
I only get to see my girl a few times a month,
Maybe distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder.
Any advive?

[Shino]

Advise...? OK... here's a little...

If you like her, and there are no problems... stick with it man.

You just got to college and it's normal to feel that way. But you can't "What if" yourself to death over it

A lot of times... in my experience anyway, dating multiple girls at the same time is just a bad idea. You're either lying to hide it, or you are telling the truth and you have the likely possibility of one or both girls getting jealous and then you end up with nothing.

If you got a good thing going, stick with it. You're only a month in. It's normal to feel this way.

Now if you feel there is a compatibility issue, that's a different story.

You know... a "What if" like you are describing is exactly the reason I'm with Shan right now. My Ex "What ifed" herself b/c she thought that she was going to find the one she was going to marry while in grad school. Well it was a very tough moment when she found out that I had moved on. However, I still very much consider her a friend and she is a great person.

True, distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder... BUT, in most cases, you don't know what you got 'til it's gone.

In reality though, you gotta follow your heart. Whatever your decision, I wish you the best. Just don't be bogged down with the idea of dating more than one girl just b/c you can.

[Kudasai Hiroki]

Very good advice from Shino. Plus, you're young. You're just starting college. You've got plenty of time to explore other relationships. If you like this girl and she likes you stick with it for a while. You may be suprised at how situations tend to work themselves out over time. You may end up wanting to stay with her or she may want to date other people as well.

Whatever you do don't try to date other people behind her back. That never, never works out.

[Zzyxx]

Thanks for the advice, but i think you misunderstand me a bit.
I would never date another girl behind her back.
As long as we are going out i'm devoted to her,
But if we decide being single is the best thing for both of us,
Then i'll start dating other people.
But no, i'm not a player,
That's not how i roll.

[Shandriz]

[Zzyxx]

Thanks for the advice Shan, i think i will.
I just kinda wanted to try and get my thoughts squared away before i did.
I figured that if in te end i was happy where i was then by not bringing it up i could have avoided hurting her altogethor, but i see there talking really is the best solution.

[Ming]

[Zzyxx]

I talked to Bonnie and we came to the conclusion that it was the distance that was making things hard on us. We decided that we still wanted to see each other, just not exclusivly. Really, i can't see myself dating anyone else right now, but i though that was just for the best since we kinda rushed into it.
THis has kinda been my first serious relationship, i mean i've had crushes, but this is the first one i can see going somewhere, i guess i just kinda want to get it clear in my head that i'm doing the right thing before i let my heart get involved, you know?

[Shandriz]

See? ^_^ I told you things would work out if you talked to her. I'm glad you've sorted everything through.

[Kudasai Hiroki]

I hope all works out well for you man. Seems like you're on the right track so far.