Some Serious thinking.

[RivaOni]

Good luck to you dude, everybodies different and there's no set rules of how long you should go before you plan to settle down.

Admittedly, I settled down before I was ready, but y'know what, I'm still happy.

however, none of my life has really been planned out, by myself anyway, our daughter was unexpected (on my part anyhow, but that doesn't REALLY matter), and when I left school at 16 (normal education in the UK ends at 16, everything after that is further education that you have a choice in doing) i never thought I'd end up dropping out of furthr education twice, have a kid when I was 19 (I did turn 20 a month later though!) thn plan to go back into education when I was 23 (I'm 23 in june and plan on going back to college in September on a part time course)

[Jaena]

Oddly enough, I was ready for marriage in high school (how old were we Link? 16?), but I wasn't ready for a child. When stuff happened and I ended up with a child, it made the need to settle down to get married seem even more urgent. I couldn't just date because I was preconsciously looking for someone to marry as well, and that kinda scares people. And then I went "duh" got back in contact with Link, and we're getting married next year. And we're waiting for HIM to get out of school.


As far as the boy vs girl child argument, I HAVE a boy, and he is neeeeeeeeedy. He eats neatly (for a two year old), and runs amuck, but also wants someone to play with him, or sit at teh table with him, or hold him to get him to sleep. Link and I are hoping to eventually have a girl though. Because I want one, dammit.

[Sciler]

I know this feeling all too well. I think about it almost daily, which is sad to me I have wanted to be married and feel "safe and secure" since I was probably 16-18. I still had a lot of growing to do though...and I thought at one point in my life that I would get to have what I wanted, but of course that didnt happen, because it rarely seems to actually happen the way I hope. I've kind of stopped hoping, and just go with what life gives me now...usually if I hope too much, I just get let down =\

I still want to be married though, its especially getting to me lately, as I'll be turning 28 this year. I dont feel it though. And its getting to me because it seems that EVERYONE around me that I know, is either married, engaged to be married, or having kids...and its depressing to know that I'm still not there yet, and its funny ebcause I was one of the ones who actually WANTED it, whereas people who are there, were the ones who didnt really care one way or the other about it. Isn't life funny? I think god just enjoys taunting me on a daily basis.

As for kids...I want them...but not soon, but I know I shouldnt wait TOO long to have them, so that I can enjoy them...but I am absolutely terrified about them. Being an only child, i have little to no experience with babies. Children around 2+ I'm ok with, I'm not scared, but fragile babies, who cant even hold thier own heads up. I'm so afraid of doing something wrong. But deep down I'm a nurturer, I think I would be a good mom, and my bf would be a good dad, so thats good at least

If nothing else, when everyone else is having babies around me and I'm still unmarried with no kids, just call me Auntie Lixx so I dont feel left out lol

[Silver Adept]

Marriage and children are things I'd like to have. And maybe now that I'm finished with my schooling, I can start working in that direction. Sometimes I feel like I missed out on something important by not having or finding my "sweetheart" while in school, but there's hope that things will turn out well for me. For all I know, I'll find the person I want soon.

Or I might go all the way to my grave a bachelor. I don't know.

[kei]

Yeah, I want daughters. ^_^ I love giving attention and spoiling. So I think it would be great. I hope the person I choose to marry is interesting and beautiful. And can love me for who i am and love me more for what i will become. Of course When it comes to naming the children we might have a few disagreements