Falling out of love

[starlitdancer]

How do you fall out of love with someone?

I feel like I've messed up...and I don't know what to do.

[Azurel]

First off, I'm sorry you failed your exam. I don't really know you that well, but from what I gather, you are really passionate about this nursing thing.

Second off, I know exactly how you feel. The same thing basically happened to me not too far back, though we moved a lot faster than you two. I wouldn't be much of an advice giver for this situation though...because I refuse to talk to the girl anymore. But, that's because we found out that we really hated eachother, which isn't the case for you two, I assume. She was my first kiss too...

Anyways, if you think a romantic relationship can work within that year before he moves, I say go for it. The breakup may be hard, but you'll know it's coming and be able to better prepare for it. And what other chance will you get? Things seem to work well between you (by this I mean that even when things are bad, you guys have fun, which is by far a valuable trait). Second, you've both got the same interests/career in mind. I know how few and far between the good ones come, so I go for every chance I can get. That's what I would advise.

[Therin]

For once, I agree with him. This is one of those times where you should just live in the moment, and put the future on a shelf in a back closet somewhere to gather dust for awhile. Yes, you'll probably have to break up with him come moving time, but at the end of that, you'll be only the better for the memories you shared and the things you learned. Every relationship you experience is an exploration of your inner self. It's one of the only ways I've found that you can learn about how you yourself feel about certain things. It will also help you to define the good things you see in other prospects, rather than having not the faintest clue (like me) what you do and don't want in someone with whom you might end up spending your life.

They say that love is the greatest experience that a human can have. Don't deny yourself that experience just because you know it will be over. Everything comes to an end. What matters at the end is what you can say about yourself. Did you do the right thing? Did you learn? Most of all, were you happy? True happiness doesn't come along often, so take the chance while you have it.

Worst case, he says he doesn't love you back. So where does that leave you? It leaves you ahead of where you started, because you now have probably one of the best friends you'll ever meet. Ever.

I am sorry that you failed your exam, but, compared to the good things that are happening right now, that is simlpy infinitesimal. Besides. That's what next time is for ^_^

In all, I am very happy for you, Star.

[starlitdancer]

Azurel and Therin - I never thought of it that way. And I don't know what will happen now -- I haven't heard from him yet.

As for the exam, I can re-take it -- just need to re-schedule.

[reaper]

Yeah pretty much what they said.
It’s better to have a moment of sadness than a life of what if’s.

[Tobias]

Well...i kind of had a similar situation. I had met a girl in my senior year that i actually had the balls to go up to and ask to a movie. We had done things afterwards, like go to dances, mess around, that type of stuff. I realy liked her, unfortunately, she just wanted to stay on the friend level. Now, before i knew this, i knew she was going to go to Florida for school, and i was going to stay in CT, so i figured, lemme ask her and see if we could start something a little more "intimate.," Well, she said she woudl rather be friends, and well, we are. And the best part is, there IS no longing from the distance...shes just a really really good friend...possibly one of my best friends, and that'll never end.

So what im saying, is to go for the relationship, and dont worry if he says he doesnt feel quite the same back...it happened to me, and instead of getting a significant other...i ended up with a best friend...so its Win / Win in the long run

That is all

[starlitdancer]

Update (kinda). I tried calling him yesterday ... no response. He always calls back, and this time he didn't. *tries not to overanalyze*

[Therin]

Absolutely do not overanalyse. I forbid it. That's why I'm still single. And believe me, you do not, under any circumstances, want to end up like me >.<

*clears throat* Talking to people about it is good, though ^_^

Edit: Or find some good, mind-sucking music to listen to, that'll do the trick for a little while.

[Excel Zero]

yeah no kididng Azurel...somedays it's a good idea to push away consequence and just go for something. If it fails then at the very least you have life experience right?

On a side note I would like to comment on the title of this here thread

I truely believe that if you really do love someone, you don't ever fall out of love with them regardless of what they do. They are always a part of you

just my silly idea though

[starlitdancer]

*nods* Yeah, after a few days, I was starting to wonder if the title was still appropriate. Now I think it's more a matter of clearing the air between us. I'd like for us to talk things out and see how it goes, because this needs to be settled. He means a lot to me, regardless of whether he loves me or not, and I'd hate to mess up a good connection over this.

Therin, I analyze like mad. It's an ingrained habit. As for "good, mind-sucking music" -- got it.