Bachlor issues

Zzyxx · *bursts into flame* Gender: Joined: 30 Sep 2004

Man, i have alot of girl trouble... it's all my fault really, i have rejection issues so i don't want to come out and say what i feel, for fear of rejection... i mean i can write about it, think about it till it makes me sick, even tell others about it, but when it comes right down to it, i can't talk to the object of my affections.... i really dislike that part of me. i mean i would try to slay a lion with my bare hands before i would walk up to a girl and say "Hey, i really like you..." sad, i know, oh well, bachelor going on two years... no end in sight

Ultrawolf · Mr. Roarke Gender: Joined: 04 Jul 2003

I know exactly how you feel man. You just have to learn to take a chance because if you don't you'll always ask yourself what if's and you could let the perfect girl slip through your fingers. I have a lot of friends who are girls that tell me that so and so likes them but the other person is too afraid to talk to them or tell them how they feel. My french teacher always tells us this story about this one girl who was in her class. She was really pretty and everyone liked her but all the guys were too afraid to ask her out to the Prom or whatever. That girl didn't go to prom because nobody asked her. She was a nice girl apparently and like my teacher said, people liked her but guys were just too afraid of being rejected. My teacher said that the girl would have gone with anyone who was at least a good person. If you're a good guy then it doesn't really matter if you don't look like Prince Charming. I mean look at me, I'm a pretty horrible looking guy but i have the most wonderful girlfriend. If i never told her how i felt about her who knows where I would be today. I'm probably rambling by now but you never really know unless you take a chance.

If you need someone to talk to hit me up anytime on AIM or PM or wherever.

Tobias · *explodes* Age: 38 Gender: Joined: 17 Jan 2003

hey...dont worry bout it man...your a bachelor for two years...ive yet to have a girlfriend...ever.

Thats 18 years woman-less. Now thats tough...but i also attribute it to my always being shy around women. But hey...ive grown out of that, and i just ask away

Dude, dont be afraid of asking a girl out. It's just talking...something that us as people are naturally adept at and live from day to day doing.

that, and ive told this to many a people: Your girl will come. I know many people have benefitted from this advice...so like i say: Patience is a virtue...and use it wisely!

That is all

Zane · Otaku Knight Gender: Joined: 21 Apr 2003

I have to agree with these guys buddy. I just got a girlfriend about two and a half weeks ago. She's the first in about three years. In that three-year span, I only asked one girl out and had been rejected, but had had crushes non-stop. Do yourself a favor and pursue any girl might be worth it because in my opinion, regret is the worst feeling you could possibly ever have. Oh and be patient. A good friend told me that the girl of your dreams will come to you when you least expect it.

GAAZ · MOD Black Sheep Commander Gender: Joined: 14 Oct 2002

They have a drug called Paxil-CR...Ask your doctor for it..It's great it makes you not give a shit about anyone else. It really changed my life when I took it..Now I wanna take it again so I can openly tell people how I feel about them.....More so.

Zzyxx · *bursts into flame* Gender: Joined: 30 Sep 2004

hey, thanks for the advice, guys, Gaaz, i may just try that....

Tobias · *explodes* Age: 38 Gender: Joined: 17 Jan 2003

eh...im not quite the one to alter my state of person to become a better social person...which is why ive never drank before. I just let the mojo fly normally, and unadaltered Very Happy

*explodes*

kei · Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2004 9:05 pm Post subject: Re: Bachlor issues

Sperrit · Chosen of Earth Gender: Joined: 16 Oct 2002

ZZyxx... interesting name.
Anyway, buddy, they'se all right (except maybe GAAZ... I don't think not caring about anything/anyone is gonna help your girl troubles). You just have to have courage, faith and patience. The way that you really need to look at it is that the worst that can happen is that you'll get rejected, and when you think about it, there's nothing scary about that. The girl just says no and you get on with your life, simple as that. Be open and friendly with girls, they aren't that different from guys. Just stay away from the "Love From Afar" situation, where you really like a girl that you've never talked to. That never ends well unless you actually start to talk to them (without asking them out).
Anyway, like they all said, just be patient. Your girl will come. You just gotta be ready for her.

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Zzyxx · *bursts into flame* Gender: Joined: 30 Sep 2004

man, i know that, but rejection does bad things to me... it's a psych issue and i've seen a councilor about it, so it got alot better, but my hesitancy has remained. i am patient but i also tend to end being the "friend" type cuz i'm really friendly, except around girls i like.... any way, i was planning on telling the object of my affections i liked her today, but she checked out cuz a mutal friend died in a car crash last night. i have been working overtime as the comforter to all the people that i know that knew him. if that makes any sence....